Women are Superficial & Materialistic

Do you feel that it is hard to find a woman you are interested in?
Yes, I find it extremely hard to find a woman that I am interested in. I never knew finding a woman to be with could be so difficult. And I would definitely consider myself easy to please.

What are some of the challenges you face trying to find a connection with someone?
The challenges I face in finding a connections are various. My tastes are numerous and various, so I would think that it would be easy to find a woman, but this is not the case. A lot of the women here in the DC metro area are extremely superficial, materialistic, and are about what your position may be. They don't look for characteristics that make up a good man, but they prefer to know what kind of car you drive, do you rent or own, and how much money is in your checking account. Then, once they find these things out, if all looks well, then they're more apt to lay down with you, in hopes of possibly keeping you around for the next 18 years...at least. It truly is a sad state of affairs here in this area.

Other challenges include simply finding a "good" woman. One that won't hurt your feelings, isn't crazy, can hold an intelligent conversation, has ambition and drive, has goals, and knows where she is going in life. Sounds easy right? Hardly!


Do you feel that you have an advantage because there are so many women to pick from?
And there is no advantage due to the ratio of women to men. Just because there are more women than men, it merely means just that...there are more women than men. Those numbers do not effect or inflate the ratio of good women to bad women.

Where do you go to find women that are of interest to you?
I have found that live concerts and shows are usually a great place to meet women. I'm big into music, so if you're there listening to a group that I like, then we automatically have that in common. It's even better if she has a drink in her hand, because I also love going to bars and things of the sort. Bars are also a good place to meet women. Bars, not clubs. Clubs are the worse place to meet women. Another good place to meet women would be the grocery stores here in the area. Now, I'm a bit too shy to approach a woman randomly at a grocery store, but no doubt, I have seen some of the most beautiful women at these establishments. It also shows that they're taking care of themselves and very much into their own health, being that I shop at organic grocery stores.


His Stats: 24yr Old African American, DC

Question: Do you think the club is an optimal place to meet someone? Why/Why Not?

Baggage From The Last Relationship

Do you feel that it is hard to find a woman you are interested in?

• Its not hard to find a women that I am interested in….Its hard to find a black woman who doesn’t think that just because a dude is nice to her he’s running game... I give everyone a clean slate... I rarely ever get that... I usually get the baggage from the last relationship... I’m a one on one... First to come none after me... I still love ya'll though... Being hurt is a painful thing, but it’s not fair to take it out on the next dude who might actually be a great dude and honest...

What are some of the challenges you face trying to find a connection with someone?

• Usually I’m attracted to really intelligent woman... All shapes, shades of black, and style... The one thing that I find is that most of them are stuntastic (stunning/fantastic) It’s just the life work balance thing that doesn’t pan out... Sometimes it’s also that the .woman does not believe in a higher being, I’m a spiritual dude and owe my success to God and hard work. I need a woman who know he’s is the reason we exist. Know who we get our strength and power from... Alas the killer is women get bored with no drama... so they tend to self sabotage the relationship... Go figure, but its happened more than not...

Do you feel that you have an advantage because there are so many women to pick from?

• I don't feel any advantage over any other dude. I just let things happen. If i like someone and I pursue them I just come at them genuine. Most of the time that doesn't work because once again a lot of women are use to the game and the chase and all that crap. I straight come out and say, “look i think you are cool peoples and I would like to take you out...” That nice guy thing about finishing last comes around a lot... I'm secure with mine though, so I'm cool... My one will come...

Where do you go to find women that are of interest to you?

• I don't really look... I usually meet women in my circle of friends and networks. If there is a connection I pursue them, if there is an attraction yet no connection we usually wind up business associates/friends...

His Stats: 36 yr old African American


QUESTION: Do you think Nice Guys Finish Last?

Truthfulness &Trust In Someone Is Key

Do you feel that it is hard to find a woman you are interested in?

• NO, I feel that women really are too complex a creature to try to categorize or sum up in words like “I like you, you’re pretty” etc... I think its more that as a male we tend to eat with our eyes thinking that we can satisfy all women in a hunter gatherer sense of the word when most men fall short of even satisfying one woman.

What are some of the challenges you face trying to find a connection with someone?

• The biggest challenges we usually put on ourselves when we both inhibit, and let our insecurities get the better of us. That’s why bars are so much fun we drink we socialize we let go of our airs and take a collective shot of reality to make it all seem better and easier. Personally I think that truthfulness and trust in someone is key. If you cant trust someone why be with them, you’re going to only hurt yourself and live in that anguish we have all put ourselves through at one point in our lives. Without trust there’s nothing. Not to say that looks and attraction don’t play a part, they do but its like ordering a meal from a chain restaurant, you’re ordering the picture hoping that’s what you get.

Do you feel that you have an advantage because there are so many women to pick from?

• No, women have all the advantages, all the beauty, all the grace. "We men are wretched things." Thats a quote from one of my favorite movies.

Where do you go to find women that are of interest to you?

• I don’t…I’m actually extremely shy I kinda just let it happen.

His Stats: Hispanic Male ,28 years old, Bronx NY

Class vs Booty

Do you feel that it is hard to find a woman you are interested in?

• There different levels of interest. There are women who you’re interested in physically which usually do involve anything too deep. There are women who you can date but you will never get serious with for whatever reason. Then there are ladies very few who you see your self marrying and settling down with. Therefore, the last type of women are high quality but low quantity. To conclude, there might be a greater quantity for interest but the quality situation are few and far between.

What are some of the challenges you face trying to find a connection with someone?

• Class vs Booty, some women think that appeal only lies in the breast and booty. However, class, manners and intellect weighs more for me than a nice booty and boobs. At the end of the day, I have to be able to enjoy your company and who you are. To finish up, at the end of the day your mental will win out.
  

Do you feel that you have an advantage because there are so many women to pick
from?

• No I don't feel so because its quantity vs quality. I would rather be with one quality female than ten non quality female. I'm at the point where sex is great but there needs to be more.

Where do you go to find women that are of interest to you?

• I meet women anywhere and everywhere, from the train, to different intellectual events. However, quality women I meet randomly.

His Stats: 30yr Old African American

My First Response- The Artist

I don’t mind answering your questions, or giving you a male perspective. Though I do hope that you realize, just because your receiving information from a man, doesn’t mean that it should be subscribed to the whole male species. Therefore, I'll give you Vincent’s perspective, and nothing more...

Do you feel that it is hard to find a woman you are interested in?

• Yes. Mainly because most women that I find myself coming across, aren’t as artist-or open minded as I'd prefer. The kind of woman that I’m attracted to, is free spirited, insightful, and liberated sexual & spiritually.

What are some of the challenges you face trying to find a connection with someone?

• I currently don’t face any challenges. Since I’ve given up trying to connect, it's a lost cause attempting to connect with others. Most people don’t know themselves, and aren’t comfortable with themselves, so how can I expect them to open up to me.

Do you feel that you have an advantage because there are so many women to pick from?

• I actually think the opposite. Quantity never equals up to quality. I think that most women aren’t "woman" enough to be with me truthfully. Sadly, a lot of our women don’t covet depth, and the supreme power of being a woman.
  

Where do you go to find women that are of interest to you?

• I go nowhere. I focus on my son, and my artwork. If I come across a woman who's worth my time, I'll appreciate her, other than that, I don’t think twice about finding anything other than more synergy and inspiration to complete my work.
  

You spoke of having an honest connection with someone. But it’s my belief that the dating game is just that, a game, set up to get us away from honesty and truthfulness...........How can man be honest with another, if he still grapples with being honest with himself? Look at the facade that black women engulf themselves in, from the hair weaves-to fake nails-eye contacts-and euro boogie approaches toward success and advancement. Than they turn around and ask for depth from a black man. And black man are no different, we emulate ignorant depictions of us on tv, than wonder why we aren’t respected at home.

His Stats: 27yr old African American from Upstate NY

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